The most empowering day of my life was the day that I found out that I had a choice. Prior to that day, I thought I needed to accept whatever life had thrown at me and make the best of it. I always stayed positive, optimistic and strong. Yet, I found myself in a position where the people closest to me were the ones hurting me the most. My relationships, many family members, people at work and my closest friends, were the source of much of my stress and grief. In earlier years, my mother and grandmother were the only two people I could count on. When I lost them both, I felt so alone.
I felt alone for several years. I had never seen a healthy relationship. I only felt comfortable with people who treated me poorly. I did not know any better. It’s sad, but this is what was familiar to me. My life went in such a downward spiral and I had no clue how I was going to get out of it. Was this even my life? It did not turn out how I planned it. At the exact moment when I could not take any more, I had a revelation. I had decided to take control of my life. I realized I had a choice. Can you relate to any of this? These are some of the steps I took to enhance my life:
Made the Choice to No Longer Be the Victim:
I decided that I was no longer going to accept this behaviour anymore. I was not going to let anyone bring me down.
Removed Harmful and Negative People:
I did not take anything negative people said or did to me personally. I realized that this is how they treat everyone…not just me. I surrounded myself solely with positive and encouraging people. This is the key to having a happier life.
Changed the Things I Didn’t Like:
I wrote a list of all the things and people that I was not happy with in my life, and changed it. I took ownership of my life and my mistakes. I decided that from that day forward, I would be wiser and make better choices. . Ones that made me stronger and better.
It is amazing to know that you do not have to settle for a life that you are not happy with. You do not have to tolerate people who are not treating you properly. It feels great to take control of your life. To live each day, knowing that you have the choice to remove yourself from any situation that is not serving your higher good. It doesn’t get any more empowering than that!