Relationships. How are your relationships and friendships? Do you feel fulfilled with your partner? Or are you feeling like something is missing and you are losing yourself in the process? Things were great in the beginning, then all of a sudden you find yourself in another crappy relationship. You cannot believe it happened again! You were not going to allow yourself to be treated poorly, lied to or taken advantage of. You feel hurt, betrayed, drained and possibly numb.
Some of you are alone because you are unable to find someone. You feel ready, but you cannot seem to find the right one. Maybe you are alone because you have been hurt too badly? Being by yourself may seem better than dealing with the aggravation which relationships tend to bring.
It is ironic that I am talking about relationships. My relationships were nothing short of tumultuous. Not only my romantic relationships, but also my relationship with some family members and with my choices of friends. Somehow, all of the amazing people in my life were being overshadowed by all of the toxic people. The selfish, abusive and manipulative people crept their way to the forefront of my life.
When it came to romantic relationships, I seriously thought I would never get that area of my life right. I accepted that as my fate. I have grown up never witnessing a healthy or loving relationship. My mother passed away, never getting relationships right. I felt I was doomed for failure in relationships as well. I did not make the greatest choices. I pushed away the nice guys. I found them boring or too good to be true. I would not allow myself to get attached, as I could not handle my heart being ripped out.
Do not give up on relationships! I have been where you are at. I will help you find the unconditional love you deserve.
WRITE DOWN THE LIST OF YOUR IDEAL MATE
Write down the qualities which you require in a compatible relationship. This allows you to think with your head first. What works for you? What are the deal breakers? Very often, once we are in a relationship, our judgement can become clouded. It is extremely helpful to be aware of this, before you enter a relationship and your head is clear. Keep true to what you require and desire, and you will be well on your way to a healthy relationship.
DO NOT LOSE YOURSELF
Do not compromise your beliefs, morals and what you stand for. Do not lose yourself in a relationship. You do not want it ending with you having to put yourself back together. You build them up and they end up better, yet you are left feeling used, abused and drained. You should not have to fight for their attention and constantly try to please them.
ENHANCE EACH OTHERS LIVES
Healthy relationships allow each other to grow, learn, play and laugh together. You should both be fine alone, but together you enhance each others lives. You are free to be yourself and are loved unconditionally.
YOUR RELATIONSHIPS ARE ALL DIFFERENT
Each relationship is different. Give this new person a chance. Do not let a bad experience from the past carry over and wreck something good. Do not shut your heart down because you have been hurt or betrayed.
There is no rush. You do not want to settle. If you have been hurt in the past, it is wise to proceed with caution. It is only a matter of time before people will show you their true colors. You deserve to be treated well in all relationships. It will be worth the wait.
The relationships in your life are the cause of the majority of the stress and happiness in your life. Choose each relationship and friendship wisely.