Are you always in your head? Do you try and figure out why people are treating you the way they are? Do you hate surprises and not knowing things? When you have been hurt in the past, the last thing you want, is to be hurt again. You may become paranoid. Your mind can quickly take over and create scenarios or reasons to explain the unknowing. You may become antsy. You need an answer right away, so you create one in your head. Although you are restless, you feel you are in control of the situation and that you are one step ahead. Nobody is going to pull the wool over your eyes. You are not playing the role of a fool again!
The truth is…you may become overcritical and continue to analyze until things become distorted from reality. Your biggest fears come to life in your head. If you are afraid of losing someone and you have not heard back from them in some time, your mind starts thinking the worst. Your mind can play some terrible tricks on you. The good news is that you have control of what is going on in your head. We can choose to be smarter with our thoughts, after we understand our patterns and behaviors.
NOT AS BAD AS CREATED IN YOUR HEAD
How many times have you thought the worst, only to find out what had actually happened, was not nearly as bad as what was going on in your head? Don’t worry, you are not alone. We have all done that. The important thing is to remember that your mind can very easily worry needlessly, so do not allow it.
YOU MAY WRECK GOOD THING
It is common for people to self-sabotage themselves. If you are used to never feeling good enough or undeserving of something/someone, then you will create thoughts in your head to validate these negative emotions. Remember the truth and the good that you deserve. Choose positive thoughts.
CAUSE UNNECESSARY STRESS
Creating conclusions in your head based on fear, may end up not being true. These insecurities cause unnecessary stress. You are not only hurting yourself, but you are needlessly hurting others. Enjoy each moment as it is, instead of worrying about what may or may not happen in the future. If something is bothering you, address it right away. If you need to know an answer from someone, ask them directly.
ANALYZING TOO MUCH
Often we have to figure things out. We want to make sense of everything, so there are no surprises. Sometimes, we have no choice but to accept things as they are. When we overthink,we tend to create problems that did not exist in the first place.
MAY THINK SOMEONE IS MAD AT YOU
If someone does not call you exactly when they said they were going to, or their text seemed short and abrupt, you may automatically assume that they are mad at you. All of a sudden, you are trying to figure out what you have done wrong. Stop being so hard on yourself. Instead of thinking the worst right away, why don’t you first try giving the person the benefit of the doubt? Quite often, it has absolutely nothing to do with you. They may have been busy. Or something/someone (other than you), dampened their mood.
Do not let your biggest fears and insecurities take control of your head. You now have a deeper understanding of which patterns and behaviors you may have a tendency to fall into. Choose positive thoughts. Give people the benefit of the doubt, until proven otherwise. This alone will alleviate much unnecessary stress.