STOP VICIOUS PATTERNS AND BREAK THE CYCLE

Do you find yourself falling into destructive patterns and into a vicious cycle that you desperately want to break? You know you shouldn’t do something, but you find yourself still doing it? Then you get down on yourself, because you cannot believe that you did it again? Or have you fallen for the manipulation of a family member, partner, or friend because you were sure this time it would be different? They charmed you into thinking they have changed. But things are exactly the same or even worse. All these examples are patterns, which seem to come by default into our lives. It is difficult to break, unless you are aware of what you are doing and have the strength to break this cycle. Your frustration can be your fuel to make a change.

You are not alone. I have spent most of my life with these types of vicious patterns and cycles. Just one example of this, was when I had chosen one wrong partner, after another. Each time I thought I was making a better choice for myself, but it turned out I was getting it all wrong. My mother had fallen into this same pattern, so I came by it honestly. This was the only way I had ever known. Sadly, my mother died before getting it right. Ultimately, I inherited her way of making poor choices in men. I was desperate to break this cycle. I was tired of making bad choices and tolerating toxic people in my life. I could no longer handle family members, friends and partners hurting me. I knew I had to figure this out. There was no way that I was going to transfer this vicious cycle onto my two girls. I needed to find a way to make healthier choices, so my daughters had a better shot of a happy and fulfilled life.

 

 

BE AWARE OF WHAT IS NOT WORKING FOR YOU

When you find yourself down or frustrated over and over again, you need to come to terms with the fact that this thing is not working for you. You may really want it, but clearly you are going against your best interest and what the Universe/God is trying to tell you. The faster you realize this, the sooner you will reach a more peaceful and happier life.

WRITE DOWN WHAT MAKES YOU UNHAPPY AND WANT TO CHANGE

This will give you a clearer idea. Since it is on paper, you can read and absorb it. You can also reference it to make sure you keep on track.

TRUST YOURSELF

Now that you know what is frustrating you and what is getting in the way of your happiness, trust yourself. You took the time alone to figure this out. These are your answers to what you truly want and how you feel. Stay true to that.

BREAK THE CYCLE

Stick with the changes that you are clear and sure that you want to make.You now know what does not work for you, and which negative patterns you fall into. When you are faced with those situations or people again, it will stir up something inside you and trigger certain emotions. This is your BIG SIGN to not get caught up in whatever is trying to pull you back in. This moment is crucial. Use your head and your strength.

 

 

These tips worked for me and also for my two daughters. All three of us are in healthy and happy relationships. YAY! We have broken the cycle! Not just in relationships, but in all aspects of our lives. I hope this will help you also. You are now aware of your patterns. Use your power to take control and change things for the better.

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