Trina Hall Lifting You Up Higher and Higher
Why do we take things so personally? We are the first ones to turn the blame onto us. If someone is angry, we wonder “What did I do”? Also, if we have not heard from someone for a while, we may automatically think that we did something wrong. Somehow, we take things too personally.
First of all, if you can relate to this, I admire you already. You have a conscience and you care about how you are affecting others. You do not want to hurt or offend anyone. The only problem is that it is impossible to please everyone. Also, there may be other possible explanations, which have nothing to do with you. You may needlessly be causing yourself grief.
IT’S NOT ME, IT’S YOU
If you are surrounded by someone that makes you feel like you are not good enough or is always criticizing you, take a moment to re-evaluate. Bullies and manipulative people commonly use the same tactic. They blame you and criticize you, and before you know it, somehow you are the one apologizing. Also, look how they talk and treat others. You may be surprised to find out that you are not the only one they treat poorly. No matter what you do, it will not be good enough and you will still be criticized. Do not to take any of what they are doing or saying, personally. This is one of the best revelations.
OTHER EXPLANATIONS
Sometimes there are several other explanations for people’s behavior, which may have nothing to do with you. You may feel neglected, yet the other person is busy. You may think that someone is angry with you, but they may just be having a bad day or not feeling well. Who knows what happened to that person, prior to your encounter with them. Before you take things too personally, take the time to consider this other option.
YOUR PAST MAY CAUSE YOU TO TAKE THINGS TOO PERSONALLY
We have all experienced something painful, traumatic or devastating in our past. It is natural to subconsciously transfer this to a present day situation. Emotions are the key trigger to this. Whenever someone causes some intense emotions to stir up inside of you, this is the time to stop and catch yourself. Emotions have a funny way of taking over you. This is an important time to use your head. Is there legitimate cause for you to feel the way you do? Or are you feeling this way because it reminds you of someone/something in the past? There is a BIG difference between the two. Do not let a bad experience from the past, carry over and wreck something good. Free yourself from this. You deserve happiness and great things.
When you take things too personally, you may be needlessly giving up your personal power. Life can be difficult as it is, don’t make it harder on yourself.
Hi Trina: Your article spoke right to me. That’s exactly what I do, I blame myself for everything. It must have been what I said, or did that people act the way towards me. Thanks for the eye opener.
Hi Janice: I deeply appreciate your comment and am happy to hear that my article spoke right to you. I truly have been where you are. It is difficult to recognize that we naturally/automatically blame ourselves, as we have been doing this for a long time. This eye opener will most likely give you a new perspective of how things truly are and change things around for you. I’m always here if you need me. I would love to help. xo
“YOU” described me personally, only two weeks ago!! Had I not listened to your advice, I would be feeling guilty (the same way)!! If anyone is or have been this way, I guarantee your words and thoughts should be put into play – IMMEDIATELY!!
Thank you Don for your kind comment. You are the only one that made this happen. I gave you the tools that you needed to use to change things around, but YOU were the one that made the choice to use them. I am extremely happy about the positive impact.