NEVER TOO BUSY FOR PEOPLE WHO MATTER MOST

We all get too busy. Life gets crazy. The demands get high. It seems impossible to do all that you need to do and please everyone. It is especially hard if you have children, are in a relationship or have a demanding job. I am no exception to this. I did however have a revelation around 8 years ago. My phone was always going off. I was wanted here, there and everywhere. I was surrounded by needy people and in a needy relationship. Up until this point, I never had a problem with all the demands and attention these people needed, because I loved helping and being there for them. But it was one phone message in particular that stood out to me. This message was from Kim; one of my closest and longest friends. Her message was no different than all her other messages, but somehow, on this particular day it stood out and changed a huge part of the way I live my life today. Her voice message was simply this, “Hi Trina. I know you are busy, but please call me back whenever you can”. Her messages were always sensitive to the fact that I was busy. She would always be patient enough to wait for me to call her back, or leave me another similar message.

I was stopped dead in my tracks. Have I reached a point where I am always too busy to call back the one friend that has always there for me? The understanding one, who allows me to live my life the way I want to live it and supports every decision that I have ever make? The one who loves me unconditionally, even though I have been too busy to show her the respect of returning a call? I definitely valued our friendship, but clearly my actions were not showing it. The saddest part, was that the people who were the most demanding and only cared about themselves, were the one monopolizing my free time. I always had to be there for them or I would get the guilt trip and feel bad. There is a saying that the “squeaking wheel, gets the oil”…well it’s true. The people in my life that were taking priority were the ones that always had something urgent or “needed” me the most. When, I took a closer look, it would seem like it was daily. Meanwhile, my friends, like Kim would be neglected because she would leave an understanding message that didn’t seems as urgent to reply to. I made a decision, right then and there to always make time for the people that mattered most.

 

 

Never Be Too Busy For Those Who Matter Most

I looked at my life and the people who were a priority to me, and I made a list. It saddened me to realize that the people on that list were getting overshadowed by others. Look at your life, and make your own list. Make a vow to yourself to make time for these people.

Make Less Time for the Unworthy People

When I rearranged my priorities and made more time for the ones that mattered and less time for the ones whom always “needed” me, the strangest thing happened. One by one…they disappear out of my life. When they weren’t getting all that they wanted from me, they moved on to the next person. Do not be surprised if the same thing happens to you.

 

 

Make Time to Do the Things You Love

It is important to make time to do things you love. Life cannot be all work and no play. Schedule time for activities that bring you joy or enhance your life.

 

 

This message may seem simple to some of you, as it finally is to me now. I am still busy and it can be a struggle at times to balance out my life. But what a difference it has made once I chose to prioritize and schedule the things that matter most. My life is much easier, joyful, peaceful and balanced. This is what I hope for all of you.

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