Trying to understand why others do the things they do, can drive you crazy. Why is it that you can be the nicest person to someone and they do not like you? No matter what you do, you can never please them? Or maybe, you are the one that feels no connection? They do not understand you and you do not understand them. You cannot get on the same page, no matter how hard you try. You would think that it would be easy, but it is not.
After many years of trying to understand why people are the way they are, I finally had to surrender. The best way was to accept people for who they are and respect them for where they are at. We are all on a spiritual journey and learning our own lessons. Not everyone is on the same level. Not everyone is on the same vibration.
THEY ARE DOING THE BEST THEY CAN
When you understand that each person is doing the best they can, at the level they are at, you will have more compassion. You may not know their entire story or what is driving them to treat you a certain way. There is no justification for bad behavior, but at least you will understand where they are at.
UNDERSTAND YOUR BOUNDARIES
People at a lower vibration can be draining. Their energy is heavy and can drag you down. What are you willing to put up with? What are you not willing to put up with? If you understand your boundaries you will not allow people to hurt you or negatively affect you.
NOT MATCHING UP
It is common for people not to match up. That does not mean that you never will. It means that you can talk until you are blue in the face and they will never understand you. You are wasting your breath. They may understand in years to come, or they may not. This is not your responsibility. You have the choice of how much time you are willing to spend trying to explain or defend yourself.
YOU MAY NOT LIKE THEM
You may find that for whatever reason you do not like or connect with someone. You may not even understand why. Usually there is an underlying issue that you have not dealt with. You do not have to like them or be close to them. Ideally you want to reach a point where no one can disrupt your inner peace.
NOT EVERYONE WILL LIKE YOU
People who are hurting you, may not like you. You may remind them of someone and they may transfer that hurt onto you. You may also remind them of the person they once were like or aspire to be. They may have resentment towards you for that. Either way, it is not personal. They need to deal with their own issues. They need to heal their own pain, so they are able to love with an open heart.
Other people’s opinions of you do not matter. You do not have to prove anything to anyone. Not everyone will understand you. Not everyone will like you. Accepting this will cause a lot less worry and pain. You will be able to enjoy your life. The ones who do not understand you will catch up with you, if they are meant to.