DO YOU HAVE ANY REGRETS?

“Do you have any regrets”? I was recently asked this deep and powerful question. My answer was “No. I do not have one single regret in my life”. The 22 year old young man who asked me this, looked shocked by my answer. He had listened to a radio show earlier that day, on this very topic. He explained that each caller was listing many of their regrets. He was aware that I have endured many struggles during my lifetime, so therefore must have made my share of poor choices. Some might call them huge mistakes. He was positive I would have many regrets and was curious for me to share them with him. It didn’t take too long for me to respond and looking at his stunned face, I took another moment to make sure there was no chance of my statement being untrue.

I have already spent many years doing inner work and healing. I had fully addressed the issue of regrets and guilt. My answer still remained the same. No, I do not have any regrets in my life. What a strong statement and the inner peace that came along with it was indescribable.

 

 

 

We All Grow At Different Rates

You cannot be too hard on yourself for making a bad choice or making a mistake. We are all human. As long as we learn from our mistakes, then we can let it go and self-forgive. The late poet Maya Angelou said “When you know better. You do better”. This is what is most important.

Make Things Right

If we had done someone wrong, either intentionally or unintentionally, we have a chance to make it right. Own up to your mistakes. Don’t be afraid to express how you feel. Apologize to the person you have hurt. Sometimes that is all it takes to make things right. If by chance the person is unable to forgive or forget. Honor that and release it. You have done that best you could. All you can do is continue to make better choices and treat people better moving forward. Hopefully, one day they will come around and see that you are a changed person. If not, your life will be better with your healthier choices and attitude.

No Regrets in the Big Picture

I have had my share of “Why did I do this”, “I should have done that”, or “If only….” When you look back on your life, you will see how all the dots connect. Each of your past choices led you to where you are today. If at this moment you are going through a rough patch, I can assure you that there is something better planned ahead for you. Everything turns out the way it is supposed to and in the best interest of everyone involved.

Missed Opportunity

If you let something pass you by, do not dwell over it and allow it to prevent you from moving forward. You have two choices. You can chase after it. Or welcome the new door that will open and not let the new opportunity slip by.

Be Proactive

Know who/what is important to you. If you spend time nurturing your relationships with those people you will always be happy. Do not be afraid to tell them that you love them. It can never be too many times. Do the things that you have always wanted to do and say.

 

 

In the past, there were things that I was not pleased with. I did spend years regretting things and having immense guilt. I had my share of questioning why things were happening to me or why they happened the way they did. But in the end, I learned to trust that things happen for a reason. There is definitely a “grander plan”. I followed the steps I have mentioned and have made things right, the best I could. I can now say that I have no regrets, as it has all led me to where I am today. So, don’t be afraid of making mistakes. Do the things that you have always wanted to do. Say the things that you have always wanted to say. You will regret more what you don’t do, then what you do.

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